10.30.2008

FAKE IT 'TIL YOU MAKE IT!!


No friends, this post is not about what you're thinking:)  When I was looking up info on "The Power of a Hug" (previous post), I came across some interesting facts on what a smile can do for your mental and physical health, and this is what I found...... Fake it ‘til you make it. You’ve heard that before, but have you actually tried it?

 Your brain does not know the difference between reality and pretense. When you pretend to feel a certain way, your brain produces the chemicals to match and, before you know it, you actually DO feel that way.

Actor Anthony Hopkins knows how true this is. In an appearance on Oprah, he revealed that he had gone through bouts of depression. He linked at least some of it to his acting and the roles he plays. He said that when you play certain characters and act in a certain way, your body does not know you are "acting." 

He went on to say that he often works with a particular director who likes to shoot a lot of takes. In one movie they did together, Hopkins’ character was scripted to have a heart attack. He told this director to be sure to capture the scene in one or two takes because that was all he would do. He knew that as he convincingly acted out a heart attack, his risk of actually having one increased with every take. 



If “fake it ‘til you make it” works for bad moods, it certainly works for good ones, as well. 

Right now, while you are reading this, stop for a moment and smile. I mean REALLY smile. Grin from ear to ear. Notice how good you feel. If you are smart, you will keep that smile because the longer it’s there, the better you will feel. 

Where can you apply this in your life? 

I use it to regulate my mood. For example, when I’m grouchy or frustrated, if I take the time to stop and smile, it always puts me in a good mood. 

What’s fascinating about human beings is how often we know how to get out of a bad mood and refuse to. 

Who are you hurting by clinging to a bad mood? Although it’s true that you may be “punishing” those around you by acting out your displeasure, the biggest victim, and Anthony Hopkins would agree, is you—the one acting out the bad mood. 


Clinging to a bad mood is like taking poison, hoping your enemy will die. 



One area in which you can use this technique is performance. Dr. Charles Garfield, in his book Peak Performance, reported on his work with the Russian Olympic weight-lifting team. Garfield noticed that when team members lifted to exhaustion, they would invariably grimace at the painful effort. In an experiment, he encouraged the athletes to smile when they got to that point of exhaustion. This seemingly minor difference enabled them to add 2—3 more reps to their performance. 

No matter the task, when you grimace while doing it, you are sending your brain the message, “This is really hard. I cannot do any more.” When you smile, your brain gets the message, “I can do this.” 

Every grimace, every sigh, every sound of frustration you produce tells your brain how difficult you find your tasks. Your brain then responds by sending stress chemicals into your bloodstream. The more stressed you grow, the more difficult the tasks become. It is a vicious circle.

How much more could you get done in a day if you turned every grimace into a smile? 

Every smile, every happy whistle, every little spring in your step tells your brain how easily things are going and those good chemicals flow into your bloodstream. The more relaxed you feel, the easier your tasks become. 

If your smile produces such powerful results, just imagine what your laughter might do!  Silver Rose, Silver@SilverSpeaks.com (Copyright, 2004, Silver Rose)

Ok, is it really possible to do this?  Sometimes when I am mad at Mooch, I.JuSt.WaNt.To.bE.MaD!.....and this might sound a little evil, but it sort of makes me feel better - teehee.  I know, I know, that is just plain mean, I really do love the guy.   I am going to sincerely attempt to put this little experiment to the test this next week, and I will report back to you on the results.  If some of you give it a try, let me know the results.

10.22.2008

THE POWER OF A HUG


I finally got an unsolicited hug last night from someone that I seriously thought I would never get one from again, and it was beautiful. Those of you who know me, know where this hug came from, but I am not going to go into the private details about it, but rather I want to share with you some interesting facts and a story that I found on the internet about "The Power of a Hug".

A Hug is one of the most basic ways two human beings touch. There is power in a hug. A hug can break down barriers that sometimes words cannot do. At times, it can speak more than any words can say. We bond with a hug. We find comfort with a hug. We greet and separate from each other with a hug. We establish human contact and interaction with a hug. The beauty of a hug is in its simplicity. The gesture towards another human being, known or unknown, is easy. It costs nothing but a simple act of caring and kindness.

According to the American Heritage Dictionary of the English Language, the definition of a hug is : "to clasp or hold closely, especially in the arms, as in affection; embrace. To hold steadfastly, to cherish . To stay close to.

Human beings thrive on touch and often languish without it. We are social creatures. The simple act of hugging can lift a person and make them feel connected to someone else. When you embrace another human being, for those few moments, you have to let go of everything and focus on that hug.

-"You can't wrap love in a box, but you can wrap a person in a hug." unknown author


This is a picture from an article called
"The Rescue Hug". The article details
the first week of a set of twins.
Apparently, each were in their respective
incubators, and one was not expected
to live. A hospital nurse fought against
the hospital rules and placed the babies
in one incubator.

When they were placed together,
the healthier of the twins reached
out an arm over the sister in an endearing
embrace. The smaller baby's heart
stabilized and her temperature rose
to normal.

You can probably guess that I am floating on air!! I sincerely am not making light of the above story when I say that my heart stabilized when I received my hug. It was the perfect ending to a perfect day.

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